Love and marriage

Lately, whenever I open my friendster, I am greeted with photos of fresh wedding photos of a friend of mine.

The story is that they dated for 1 – 3 years and they are around the age of 19 – 22 years old. They say, “Why wait they are going to get married in the future anyway. So why not now when they are young and able to enjoy their young lives together.”

There is a reason why Frankie sang Love and marriage and not love is marriage.

How many in our lives have we said we loved the other party and walked away? I am sure with our culture it is not uncommon. *hears Dylan Sanders, Drew Barrymore character in Charlie’s Angels scream, “I love you! I would DIE for you!” seconds later a gun shot and a silent oh-oh…

I am sure there are people would now say, “Yes I’m in love. I’m very sure of it. No question!” That is great to hear coming out from a 19 – 22 year old mouth… you do know you need money to get married right? HDB or rental for a place to live unless you want to live on your parents, if so I pity you parents because they have to not only deal with 1 but with 2 freeloaders. Also do not forget the food, water and electricity bills that came with living by yourself and spouse so that you can have your quiet little world together.

Then there will be people who say, “I have money. It’s okay. I’m filthy rich.” Then how about investing? Or getting some education so that you will be able to have some money to feed your future children, or maybe you don’t want children. So then we have to consider a better quality of living, retirement, every living and holidays. Then maybe someone will come around and tell me, “You don’t need a lot of money to get married, you can just have a simple life.” That is only a small percentage of people. How many people can have a simple life? Also considering education now, a degree is nothing, who knows in the near future a Masters would be nothing. Education is expensive and you know it.

Maybe the government is doing too good of a job on getting people to making babies. Yes, marriage then babies is a good traditional way of going. BUT, the quality of people going to go make babies, what kind of up bringing and qualities will the child have if their own parents are just children. I am sure people will spit back saying, “As long as they are happy it will be okay.” Sure, please tell that to the current divorcing rate in Singapore. In addition, children behavior is not only in whole education, but also the up bringing the parents give.

Getting married young is not a smart thing, unless you have your life going already. If not, be smart, get it together and then get married. Marriage is not something you should be pressured into. The diamond ring is the cheapest thing in a marriage.

And do not give me that two happy people on a deserted island crap. If not you have never heard of the show Survivor, right?

Journey

So I’m going on exchange to Korea for a year. Everyone asks/tells me, “You must be so excited!”, but personally I don’t see why.

I mean, I’m looking forward to it (yay proper forced language practice) but I don’t feel a sense of excitement. Maybe because since I’m already overseas, and going overseas (again) to study is nothing particularly new.
There’s no novelty in the idea at all. It is just another page in the book of my life (which isn’t particularly interesting in the first place).
If anything, I’m really looking forward to getting out of this house I’m living in now -_-

I’ll be back in Singapore on the 30th, stay for a little under a month, and then I’m off to Seoul.

I have yet to pack up my room and ship most of the stuff back I’m so screwed…
It’s amazing how much crap a person can collect in the short span of 2 1/2 years.